Life is a beautiful and complicated thing. Everyday we are challenged with constant decisions that we have to make, for ourselves and those we care about. Those decisions have impacts that go far beyond what we may have intended, and have a butterfly effect that may go on long after we are gone. Our children, their friends, nieces, and nephews, can be very impressionable and one thing that was said or done may have an impact on what they do in the future and how they interact with the people in their lives.
If you sit and think about the ripples you can have on others lives and how they may turn into waves, you may spend a lot of time worrying about whether you have had a positive or negative impact. But what good does worrying do? This is something that I think most, if not all of us, deal with, we spend a lot of time thinking about the past and the present that we don’t take time to think about the future.
When something goes wrong in life, we look for who to blame. The person we blame tries to excuse his decisions or actions. But is that really the point, consequences should not be about revenge or punishment, but about rehabilitation, and preventing something from happening again. When we make excuses, it is because we are worried that taking responsibility will lead to a punishment we don’t want. The problem here is that both the accuser and accused aren’t thinking about fixing a problem for the future, but just want the satisfaction of being right. If the accuser is clear that they just don’t want the transgression to happen again, then the accused can take responsibility and change the way they act in the future.
But so much time is spent worrying about what could or might happen, that we don’t take the actions to change what is going to happen. Don’t let the worry monster kill you, instead slay the worry monster. Worrying will not feed you, it will not heal you, and most definitely it will not fix anything, only your actions, in word or in deed, can do that.