What can be said about our motivations in life? There are plenty of reasons why we do what we do, and I touched on it a bit when I went down the path of being motivated by love or money. The problem with money, is that it does motivate us, and sometimes the love of money motivates us do to the wrong thing. After we have made the money, we use it for things that we enjoy or that our family and friends may enjoy. But when we spend that money, it can become a tit for tat, on who owes what to who.
And while I do not want this book to turn into a theological discussion, there are some practical aspects from the Bible, that if we applied to ourselves, we could have more peace in our lives. The expression that comes to minds is “But rather, love your enemies and do good to them, and lend expecting nothing back.” The point is that when you lend your money, expecting to get repaid, it can harm the relationship you have with that person. On the other side, that person, should want to repay you.
I, myself, do not like being in debt to others, and I usually offer to pay, and don’t worry about how much everything cost. If I go out with my friends, I expect to pick up the bill, because I don’t want to sit there and nit pick over who had what and what is fair. The point of going out, isn’t about the cost, it is about having a good time, worrying about money at the end will ruin that. If I can’t afford to pick up the bill, I offer for people to come to my house, or we can meet at a park, and have pot luck, or I just don’t go out.
This can also apply when parents get divorced, it is easy for the parent paying child support to get mad about having to pay that money. Especially when, it may be that the receiving parent may not be spending it wisely. Unfortunately, worrying about this isn’t going to change anything, just let it go, and focus on making sure your children are happy. In this situation, the kids are the most important thing, and kids are smart, they will figure out who has their best interests at heart. And when they grow up, they will remember who took care of them, and try to take care of that parent, and throw the other one in an abusive nursing home.
Another verse to remember is that, you will reap what you sow. If you look past the things that don’t matter, and focus on the things that do, you will find a lot more peace, because you will be sowing peace. Fighting about nonsense will only breed more fighting, and fighting about money is the most nonsensical thing out there. Love your exes and your enemies, and don’t worry about the money you may give or lend them, it just isn’t worth it.